Waiting until marriage could be considered a golden age ideal, especially with the rise of female empowerment and the recognition of female sexuality (about damn time). Abstinence is conventional and may seem to some as suppressing desire, but I find it quite empowering.

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My choice to wait until marriage isn’t something I talk about all the time because it doesn’t come up often in conversation, but when it has I (thankfully) haven’t really been met with any negativity. In the cases where there has been opposition, the response has usually been “oh when you meet someone you’ll want to have sex with, you’ll change your mind,” or “you don't know what you’re talking about because you haven’t had sex, so you don’t understand sex.”

These comments have always bugged me; just because I haven’t had sex doesn’t mean I don’t know what sex is and what sex means to me.

Lexie on sexual awakenings

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When it comes down to it...

I want to do this  with my body   and I have the right to do this with my body

Sex is extremely intimate, possibly the highest level of physical intimacy you can give to another person. If you feel pressured by anyone, drop them because if they’re not going to respect your choice in that area, then they’re not going to respect you in ANY area. They don't have to agree, but to feel pressure and feel small because of your choices is not healthy for you and your values! I’ve been lucky to have friends that love me and know that I know my emotional and intimate identity. I know for myself that waiting is the best thing, and they’re all like “rock on” you know? Those are the type of friends you want, you want the type of friends who will encourage you and champion you. You want the right people in your corner and I’ve been so incredibly blessed to have found that.

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